What If You’re Not Behind—You’re Just in the In-Between?

A client messaged me last week in full-blown January panic.

"I should’ve done my vision board by now. Everyone's already launching things and talking about their big plans. I can’t even decide what I want. Am I just lazy?"

When we got on a call, she was surrounded by three half-used planners, a pile of unopened business books, and a to-do list that made her stomach turn.

She confessed she’d spent the week doing things like reorganizing her spice rack and questioning whether her entire business direction even made sense anymore.

She thought she was spiraling. But I saw something else.

The In-Between Is Where the Shift Begins

I said to her: "What if you’re not at the starting line or the finish line, but in the in-between?"

That sacred, slippery place where one version of you is dissolving and the next hasn’t quite arrived.

She exhaled. You could feel her whole body unclench. That one sentence changed everything.

And maybe you need that too.

You're not behind. You're becoming. And news flash, my friend—you’re going to become again, and again, and again. The coach I am today is three versions later than the one who showed up at the start of last year. So give yourself grace as you shift. It's happening faster than you think.

This isn’t the part they celebrate on Instagram. But it’s the part that matters most. Because just like winter roots what spring will bloom, this pause has a purpose.

3 In-Between Invitations

Here are a few things to remember if you’re finding yourself in this liminal, messy middle:

1. Rest as preparation, not avoidance.

Your nervous system deserves a seat at the table. What if the stillness is fertilizing your next move? What if your exhaustion isn’t a flaw, but a flag to slow down and re-source?

2. Tune into what feels good, not just what looks good.

If goal-setting feels off, try joy-chasing instead. What lights you up when no one’s watching? What would you do even if it didn’t make sense on paper?

3. Let your desires reintroduce themselves.

You don’t have to force clarity. Let it court you slowly. What whispers have you been ignoring because they didn’t seem "strategic enough?"

A Gentle Reframe

Clarity doesn’t always come before action. Sometimes it arrives because of it.
Let yourself move gently. There is no race.

Be patient with the parts of you still stretching into light.

Reflect with Me

Where are you still becoming?

If this resonated, I’d love to hear from you—because the in-between deserves to be seen too.